The Refuge

What if I haven't felt like myself since the surgery?

Surgical menopause trauma and recovery: Surgical menopause through hysterectomy or oophorectomy creates sudden, dramatic hormonal changes unlike natural menopause. Women often experience unexpected grief, identity loss, and physical discomfort including...

What if I don't recognize myself in photos anymore?

Menopause and body image changes: Many women experience shock when they no longer recognize themselves in photos during menopause and perimenopause. Hormonal changes affect not just physical symptoms but also...

Sex and menopause — what if we stopped forcing it?

Menopause and decreased libido: Loss of sexual desire during menopause is common and normal, caused by hormonal changes. The challenge isn't just physical but emotional, as women often feel guilt...

HRT, antidepressants, testosterone: Yes, it works. But at what cost?

HRT and menopause treatment side effects: While hormone replacement therapy, antidepressants, and testosterone can help menopause symptoms, they often come with significant side effects like bloating, nausea, migraines, mood changes,...

What if you've never really slept?

Lifelong insomnia and menopause: Many women experience sleep difficulties long before menopause begins. When hormonal changes arrive, existing sleep problems intensify with new symptoms like breast tenderness, night sweats, and...

Herbal teas, oils, gadgets... and yet I still don't sleep

Why wellness solutions fail for menopause sleep problems: Most wellness products target stress-related insomnia, not hormonal disruption. Essential oils, herbal teas, and meditation apps don't address the physical reality of...